Fiunny, David and I were just talking and he finished a sentence for me. That happens often enough that my expectation is that he not only finishes my sentences, he knows beforehand what those sentences are. When he’s not on the same page — not even in the same book — I’m angry at him. And when he really really really doesn’t get me, I’m really really really angry.
Translate anger into hurt, which of course is what lies beneath anger. The angrier, the greater the hurt. Translate more and up pops vulnerability which, in an intimate relationshiop, is powerful enough to shut down the whole show.
Another challenge that comes with being in love.
Do you have a challenge when it comes to asking for what you want? Do you feel like you have to do everything alone? Do you “hint” at your wants and needs hoping someone “picks up on them?
More importantly do you refrain from bringing up what you want and need because you don’t want to “bother” or “burden” someone else?
“From what I’ve seen, it isn’t so much the act of asking that paralyzes us–it’s what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one.”~Amanda Palmer
It takes a great deal of courage to be direct and ask for what we want and need. The Amanda Palmer quote really sums it up nicely. Many of us are challenged asking for help. We don’t…
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