Smart.  Educated.  A creative problem-solver.  So how could somebody so smart be so stupid?

And how could somebody as savvy as me have married him?

My husband and I are part of the 38% of married couples who are mismatched politically.   In over 31 years of marriage talking politics is something we’ve learned not to do.

I could explore the reasons for this, but I really don’t care to.  I choose to close my eyes to my husband’s stupidity for the sake of marital harmony.   And, to be honest, so I can keep believing I made a good choice.

Forget all the communication rules about respecting and understanding and talking calmly.  We’ve opted for the Bartender’s Rule:  We just don’t talk about it.

Kathe Skinner is a Colorado Marriage & Family therapist in private practice.  Both she and her husband, David, are registered Independents who tend to lean in opposite directions.  They’ve stayed married for over 31 years by not talking politics.